“Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional”
Yes, you have chronic pain. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. While they try to minimize it, the pain continues to exist. It has been with you well over three months. The pain may be sharp, stinging or a dull ache. It can be a tingling sensation throughout your fingers and your toes or a feeling of stiffness or heaviness or an achy feeling that seems to come and go with no rhyme or reason. You want to scream in agony, pray for relief, cry from constant suffering as you lay there in bed covered in a blanket or while sitting up or walking even short distances.
Others who don’t have chronic pain just don’t seem to understand. They try to comfort you and reassure you but it just doesn’t do any good. The pain just eats away at your inner core. They tell you to live with it, be strong or ignore it. It”s just so easy for them to say these things when you still have the pain. You become more irritable, angry and hypersensitive to everything they say. You think, ” Oh, it’s so easy to give suggestions”. Meanwhile, the pain increases even when you do what your doctor, nurse practitioner, physical therapist or chiropractor tell you to do. You take medications given to you by your pain specialist that may ease the pain for a bit but soon thereafter it comes right back to haunt you. You think and worry about the future. That the pain will only get worse. That it will always be like this and you will never get better no matter what you try.
You think about what you did to deserve this. You feel such guilt for anything you said over the years and for what others around you have had to endure. And then you apologize continuously to others and to G-d. And the pain still eats away and you don’t know why. Such thoughts generate constant anxiety and depression. Life stressors seem unbearable. They are so intense that,at times, you feel like its not worth living, that you simply want to die. You withraw in your bed hoping that the next day will bring you some relief, and it doesn’t.
Believe me! If you’ve experienced any of these thoughts or feelings you are not alone! In fact, there are presently at least 100 million people in the United States who suffer from chronic pain.That’s approximately 1 in 3.5 people. In addition, approximately 25 million describe their pain as moderate to severe chronic pain. And that’s just the physical ratings of pain. Institute of Health 2011 Reliving Pain in America. Washington D.C. , Dzau VI,Pizza PA JAMA 2014, Walk D, Pollack-Tunis M. Med Clinical Nurse. Arn 2016..